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  • Writer's pictureChristina Rhyser

How to OVERHAUL the Family Calendar

numbered bags representing a busy family calendar

Dear Christy,

This is ridiculous. I'm running around like a chicken with my head cut off and never seem to accomplish anything. We are too busy. Plain and simple. I let the kids sign up for too many things and now I feel like I'm living in the car. Who do I say "no" to? People always say that this is a "mom problem" but apparently it's a "dad problem" too. I will do anything for my kids, and I don't want to back out on my commitments, but something has got to give. Soon.

How can I provide what my kids needs without going off the deep end myself?



Dear Kevin,

It may still be more common for women to be the ones facing this, but it's definitely not just a "mom problem". The solution for moms and dads is the same: "Overhaul your family calendar!"

Before you do anything, remember to have grace and honour for yourself and others, then make the choices that work for you - and let others make the choices that work for them.

The quickest, easiest, most reliable tool I know to manage our schedules is "The 4 D's" of time management. I have attached a short article outlining the steps. Feel free to reach out if you have any questions or need some help to work through your own calendar.

You've got this! Christy



In today's fast-paced world, juggling the demands of family life can feel like a constant balancing act. With so many activities and commitments vying for our attention, it's easy to become overwhelmed and lose sight of our own well-being. However, by mastering the art of time management, we can navigate the busyness of our family life with grace and honor for everyone involved.

In this post, we'll explore the importance of effective time management and introduce a powerful strategy called "The 4 D's" (Do, Delay, Delegate, or Dump) to overhaul your family calendar and regain control of your time and energy without guilt.

Introducing the "4 D's" of Time Management

To regain control of your time and energy and prioritize family well-being, it's essential to adopt a strategic approach to time management. The "4 D's"—Do, Delay, Delegate, or Dump—are a powerful framework for making decisions about how to allocate your time and focus. Let's explore each of these strategies in more detail:

1. Do

The first step in effective time management is to identify tasks that are essential and high-priority. These are the activities that align with your goals and values as a family and contribute to your overall well-being and happiness. By focusing on these tasks, you can ensure that you're investing your time and energy in activities that truly matter.

2. Delay

Not all tasks need to be completed immediately. Some tasks can be postponed or delayed until a later time when you have more bandwidth or resources available. By delaying non-urgent tasks, you can avoid feeling overwhelmed and prioritize more pressing matters in the present moment.

3. Delegate

As a parent, it's important to recognize that you don't have to do everything yourself. Delegate tasks to other family members or enlist the help of friends, relatives, or professionals when needed. By sharing the workload, you can lighten your own burden and create a sense of shared responsibility within the family.

4. Dump

Not all tasks are worth your time and energy. Some activities may be low-priority or no longer serve your goals or values as a family. It's okay to say no to these tasks and free up space in your schedule for more meaningful pursuits. By letting go of unnecessary commitments, you can create more time and energy for the things that truly matter.

Implementing "The 4 D's" in Your Family Calendar

Now that you understand the "4 D's" of time management, it's time to put them into practice in your own family life. Here are some tips for incorporating these strategies into your daily routine:

  • Prioritize Family Time: Identify activities and commitments that are essential for your family's well-being and happiness, and prioritize them in your schedule.

  • Set Boundaries: Learn to say no to activities and commitments that don't align with your goals or values as a family, and create boundaries to protect your time and energy.

  • Communicate Openly: Keep lines of communication open with your family members and enlist their help in managing household tasks and responsibilities.

  • Be Flexible: Recognize that life is unpredictable, and be willing to adjust your plans and priorities as needed to accommodate changing circumstances.

  • Practice Self-Care: Make time for self-care activities that replenish your energy and nourish your soul, such as exercise, meditation, or spending time in nature.


Mastering time management is essential for navigating the busyness of family life with grace and honor. By adopting the "4 D's"—Do, Delay, Delegate, or Dump—you can overhaul your schedule, prioritize family well-being, and reclaim control of your time and energy without guilt. Remember to prioritize tasks that align with your goals and values as a family, set boundaries to protect your time and energy, and communicate openly with your loved ones about your needs and priorities. With proactive time management strategies in place, you can create a more balanced and fulfilling family life for yourself and your loved ones.


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