by Christina Rhyser
The Parental Burnout Center is built upon the following three groundwork principles: Grace, honour and choice. Any teaching or advice provided here is deeply rooted in these core beliefs.
When everything else is stripped away, and all that remains is you... GRACE brings peace and says,
“It’s ok. I see you. Be generous and kind to yourself.”
Having grace for yourself means extending self-compassion, patience and understanding – especially when you feel smothered by guilt, regret and shame. You are inherently worthy of belonging, acceptance and adoration. You think, feel, and do some ugly things. Ok... it’s ok. You’re ok. It doesn’t make things hurt less or matter less and it doesn’t make you worth less. You are enough. You are good. You are loved.
When you know who you are and what you’re capable of... HONOUR brings empowerment and says,
"You’re not trapped. You matter. Be your true self.”
Honouring yourself means accepting, valuing and respecting all the good, inspiring and important things you have to offer this world. You know things. You can do things. And you matter. Only when you’re thriving as your best SELF (body, heart, mind and soul) can you also thrive as the best parent (and partner, friend and person) that you’re meant to be. You are not inadequate. You are not powerless. You are not trapped. Be confident in your creativity, skill, and resourcefulness.
When you are unhindered to decide what comes next... CHOICE brings freedom and asks,
"What do you want? What do you need? What will you do?”
The power to choose means eliminating obligation, embracing ownership and accepting outcomes for good, bad and mediocre. You may only choose – AND you have full freedom to choose - whatever belongs to you. With one foot planted in grace, and the other foot planted in honour – you are in ready position to create a life you love, one confident choice at a time.